I don't care...

An interesting line to start with. Isn't it? What does this phrase "I don't care..." mean to you? I tried to find out why and when do people use this phrase. Recently I was preparing a document for a colleague, who wanted some information in a certain way. I did add the information as specified and sent him the document. After some time I went to him and asked "Is the information OK? Is this the layout that you had in mind?". The reply was "I don't care". Pretty blunt reply, wasn't it? But I took in my stride and said "I'll take that as a yes from you".

Was my colleague intentionally provoking me? Did he want to start an argument with me? Probably not. His intention was that the information represented in the document did not matter to him because he asked me to prepare document on behalf of someone. That is what he tried to imply. I understood what he meant. But someone who maybe working with him for the first time will not. So what could've been a nice way to have expressed what he had in mind. Could he have said, "I liked what you did. Thats exactly what I was looking for." Or "I had something like this in my mind. What you did is close enough, but it requires some changes. Can you do that for me?". How encouraging are these statements. Wouldn't you go back and change the document immediately for him. Wouldn't you feel happy about doing the document for him.

You can argue saying that I am emotional and should not read in between words or lines. But that is not the point. To be as good as we want to be, we should learn to express ourselves in a more polite manner. Isn't humility a great virtue? Do you need to show yourself as a nonchalant person who doesn't give a damn about anything? Then believe me that you will never be a good person or a good leader. A leader should acknowledge what someone has done and should be humble himself. Only then will others hold you as an example and follow you.

Think about it. Don't take what I said. Validate it. If you find truth in it, then take it.